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Me, Myself, and I

The Confusing World of Reflexive Pronouns

By Judy Vorfeld

Have you ever won­dered if you should say, “Jason and myself…” or “Myself and Jason…” or “Jason and I…” or “Me and Jason…” or “Jason and me…? Wonder no more. We have the answers.

“Myself” is a reflex­ive pro­noun, a per­sonal pro­noun that relates (think “reflect”) the action of the verb back to the sub­ject. Examples: I drove the car myself. (I-myself.) He drove by him­self (he-himself). They went by them­selves (they-themselves).

CLUE: When using “myself,” make sure there is an “I” ear­lier in the sentence.

Example 1.

INCORRECT: Nancy will travel with Todd and myself.
EXPLANATION: Let’s remove “Todd and” from the sen­tence. Nancy will not travel with myself. “Myself” must be a reflec­tion of “I,” and there’s no “I” in the sen­tence.
CORRECT: Nancy will travel with Todd and me.

Example 2.

INCORRECT: Mother and myself will go to the store.
EXPLANATION: Let’s remove “Mother and.” Would you say, “Myself will go to the store”?
CORRECT: Mother and I will go to the store.

Reflexive pro­nouns like “myself” can’t be the sub­ject of a sen­tence. They’re gen­er­ally used to empha­size some­thing. “I’ll do it” isn’t as strong as “I’ll do it myself.” Sometimes reflex­ive pro­nouns are called “self“ish pronouns.

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